I work in an ice-cream shop every summer – this is my fourth summer, and I really like my manager and my job. This year, he told me that he was going to be giving me ice-cream every Friday as a perk for working for him. I told a friend of mine, who loves this ice-cream shop that he should definitely go talk to the owner about getting a job (and the perk) there. Well, the owner FREAKED! He told my manager I was going to lose money for the store if everybody found out I was getting free ice-cream. Then, he took away my perk. Actually, he wanted to fire me for telling people about it. My manager felt really bad about it, and I still really love the ice-cream shop and I don’t want to stop working there, but I feel really bad about what happened. Actually, I feel kind of hurt because I have worked really hard for the store. Should I confront the owner?
Ice-cream scooper girl
When it comes to money, the lesson to be learned here is that no matter how you are compensated – money, ice-cream, cheese doodles or whatever, talking about it can prove dangerous. Money talk can arouse a host of negative feelings in people: deprivation, insecurity, envy, greed, neglect, betrayal…and the list goes on. Talking about money is LOADED, and, like a gun, can set off a chain of feelings and events that sometimes leaves casualties – and it sounds like you almost became one.
This owner, if he is a smart business man, probably wouldn’t like the thought of giving away lots of his ice-cream for free! It sure would have been nice though, Scooper, if he had been content enough to tell your friend “you know, friend-of-Scooper-girl, I can’t give you any free ice-cream, I only offer it to Scooper because she has been with us for four years, she is so cute and wonderful and I love her more than anybody else!”
The important issue here, Scoop, is not whether you confront the owner or not – it would be fine if you did or if you didn’t. What I want to know is this: what choice will lead you to regard your own feelings of disappointment, or hurt, or anger, with the greatest dignity?