Part 1: Time
It is incredibly easy to find more time in your day. All you have to do is put fewer things in it. The fewer things you put into your day, the more time you have. Why something so simple should nevertheless be so elusive to so many is actually, not at all mysterious. It is very easy to understand if you think about it: it feels really good to get things done. We love getting things done. It just feel so, so good.
Ergo, to find more time in your day you would have to forego the extreme pleasure of getting so much done, including the responsibility you may enjoy having to others, who expect you to get a lot done. Foregoing all this, my friends, is NOT so simple.
I, for one, am slightly addicted to getting things done. My feelings of self-worth skyrocket in direct proportion to how much I accomplish. Sometimes, I fill my day up with so many things to do (I may be a little greedy) that by the end of the day I am so totally spent and exhausted that I can’t even enjoy a feeling of accomplishment. Which is probably OK since I did enjoy getting things done. Here’s my to-do list: check, check, check.
How can you possibly give up so much pleasure getting as much as you can done, pleasing others, feeling worthy? And why do you want more time, anyway? To relax and enjoy life? What is that? Isn’t it relaxing and enjoyable to get things done?
Hmmmm. What would I do with more time…I know it’s good to have it, because who wants to be so spent and exhausted by the end of the day? Is there a compromise that could be reached between working hard and having a little more relaxation time – a healthy balance that would leave you feeling less strung out and overwhelmed but still, accomplished?
Here are my thoughts: It is less important to strike that balance, since finding it probably changes every day, than enduring the frustration of asking it to yourself, and wondering about it.
Somewhere between making a conscious choice and not thinking about a problem at all, is a natural course of action, totally un-meditated, natural and wonderful. It’s the place where you ask yourself: am I doing too much? And then, take that extra ten minutes for lunch, or to meditate. Or breathe. Or look up and notice that the sun is shining, life is so abundant and full of wonderful conflicts that make life meaningful and complete.