It is incredibly easy to find more space in your home. All you have to do is put fewer things in it. The fewer things you put into your home, the more space you have. Why something so simple should nevertheless be so elusive to so many is actually, not at all mysterious. It is very easy to understand if you think about it: it feels really good to have more things. We love getting things. It just feel so, so good.
Ergo, to find more space in your home you would have to forego the extreme pleasure of getting and having so many things, including the responsibility you may enjoy having to others, who expect you to furnish your home with lots of great things. Foregoing all this, my friends, is NOT so simple.
I, for one, am slightly addicted to getting things. My feelings of abundance skyrocket in direct proportion to how much time I spend shopping. Sometimes, I forget about the great things I got and am surprised to find them in a closet. (I may be a little greedy) Here is my list of things I want: check, check, check.
How can you possibly give up so much pleasure getting the things you want, and getting things for the people in your life who also want things? How can you give up the pleasure of having wonderful things that take up space in your house, when you love housing these things? And what if you had extra space in your house, would it unnerve you to have it be empty? Why would you want that empty space unless you were completely resigned to having it be empty so that it would raise the question in your mind every time you saw it as to what might go there that you have been wanting? Isn’t it wonderful to want things and, when you can, to get them?
Hmmmm. What would I do with more space…I know it’s good to have it, because who wants the responsibility of having clutter and remembering that you have that pressure cooker which seals in flavors and really should be used more often? Is there a compromise that could be reached between getting things you want and having more space — a healthy balance that would leave you feeling less weighed down but still, enjoying having things?
Here are my thoughts: It is less important to strike that balance, since finding it probably changes every day, than enduring the frustration of asking yourself the questions, and wondering about it. Somewhere between making a conscious choice and not thinking about a problem at all, is a natural course of action, un-meditated, natural and wonderful. It’s the place where you ask yourself: do I have too much? And then, de-clutter and make some space in your closet or in a room. It is these conflicts that make life meaningful and complete, and they’re what matter more than reaching an elusive balance which shifts and changes anyway, every day.